What is life, and what do I want from it?

Do you ever feel that you are just ‘plodding’ on in life? That things are ok … nothing to complain about… that you’re “happy enough, I guess” but you feel that you are lacking the ‘WOW’ factor ? That’s how I’ve felt for a while. Quite a while, actually.

I can’t see the path that I’m on and I have no idea what I am “doing” with my life. I know that I’m not ‘entitled’ to see the path that God has for me… that He makes the plans, not me. I know that God’s plan is better than any plan I would ever make. I just wish He’d give me a hint once in a while, and let me know what way to go.


I’ve really been seeking in this lately. I had a long talk with my discipler a few weeks ago, and we thought about why I feel so aimless. I think partly it’s because my life now doesn’t match up to the expectations that I had for myself when I was younger, and in comparison with others around my age, I feel a bit inadequate.

I turn 28 in 2 months. (2 months minus 2 days actually)  If you had asked me 10 years ago, aged almost 18, where I would be now, in April 2017, here’s what I’d have said:

qualified social worker, happy in my job, owning my own home, married, probably with at least one child

Well…I have one of those things ticked off, since I qualified as a social worker almost 7 years ago. I’m still pretty pleased with my accomplishment, although 7 years post-qualified doesn’t feel all that much progression from 1 year post-qualified, and doesn’t get any more recognition from my current employer

It’s clear to me that life now is not what I thought it would be.

Job: I’m *ok* with my job but it would be hard to say I’m happy. I had a bad few weeks in March and spontaneously applied for another job…in Plymouth. When the interview offer came, I realised I didn’t want to move back home, but I am open to looking for another job where I might feel more stretched, or challenged, or at least valued – which I don’t always. Don’t get me wrong, compared to my old job I’m positively ecstatic and I’m in no way dismissing the great gift that God gave me by rescuing me from my old place and moving me here… but over the past few months it all seems ‘samey’ and I don’t like ‘samey’. I like challenge and new and feeling that I am making a difference.

  • I am doing something about this though (this is not purely a moany post, don’t worry) I am waiting on a date with our Head of training and development to talk about further training options that I can take up, since I’m a big geek and like to learn and pass on what I’ve learned

Home: I love my home. I have a very lovely housemate. I have almost abandoned the hope of owning my own place. I am a working professional with a steady job, but house prices are so high that even with a very healthy savings account there is no way I will be able to afford to buy. Even if I were to scrimp and save even more (I save the equivalent of my monthly rent and utilities bills every month, but still have plenty of money left for treats and luxuries and holidays etc…for point of reference) it would probably still not be enough since house prices just keep going up!

I feel content with this, now. I realised that I was working towards owning my own home because that’s what people my age do. The main difference was that either most people my age, who were buying houses, were married (therefore 2 incomes, therefore less financial strain and slightly better chance at affording local houses) or had parents who could help with deposits (or sometimes both)

Since I’m single, and since I don’t have any wealthy (or even ‘well off’) relatives waiting in the wings to give me all their money, and since actually I don’t want the responsibility of having to pay for boiler services and roof leaks and broken pipes and blah blah blah, I have decided that it is actually completely practical and completely acceptable to be renting……. although it took a long time to decide that since it’s not what people my age do!

Marriage and children: … no ring on this finger…no current prospect of one. Does that mean I’m a failure?! Um. NO. It doesn’t mean that I’m putting my life on hold and sitting like a Disney Princess waiting for my Prince to come, and it doesn’t mean I’m out there on every dating website and desperate for a man (nothing against dating sites, just not for me)

I’m living life as it is…and open to a relationship if I meet the right person…but it hasn’t happened yet and comparing my singleness with friends who were married, with one or more kids, when they were my age, is not helpful.


So, going back to my original point. Life is OK. I have a busy life and activities all over the place … dance class and choir on Mondays, Pilates on Tuesdays, Yoga on Wednesdays, Small Group on Thursdays, Yoga on Fridays, rest on Saturdays, and church on Sundays. Also, I crochet, I binge-watch Netflix, I read, I am exploring my family history, I help my friends in their garden renovation project, I practice self care and get regular massages, I go for brunch and afternoon tea, and I go to the cinema with friends (we loved Beauty and the Beast).

I’m busy and happy…but I still feel a bit purposeless…and it feels that I’m often just finding activities that fill my time up so that a) I’m not bored and b) to exhaust me so that I don’t get attacked by my insomnia [but that’s a post for another day]

Recently I asked my small group to pray for me, about this feeling of purposeless…and one person had a picture of me carrying a tablecloth, all bundled up, with lots of things in it… like this I think:


(who knew this was called a ‘hobo stick’?! Not me, but it seems appropriate)

Anyway, he had a picture of me carrying a bundle full of things I wanted…and felt God was encouraging me to lay the bundle down, spread the tablecloth out, and take up only what I wanted from the things carried inside.

I’ve been praying about that every since, trying to identify the things I’m carrying, hoping for, wanting, and filter out whether these are things that I really want for myself, or whether I want them just because I feel I should (see above about buying a house)

Since that time though, I feel almost more purposeless because there are several things I think I want and I don’t know which of them is right. I feel like a compass with all these different things, or opportunities, in different directions and there’s no arrow pointing me to the right one!

I know that I’m not lost. Not really. There’s a poem by JRR Tolkein which goes;

All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.
From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
A light from the shadows shall spring

There’s a lot of hope in that, and in knowing that God’s plans for me are completely known to Him –


Being patient and waiting for Him to lead me though….. that’s another matter!








Spring into Summer… hello again

I love summer. I love early sunrises, late sunsets, sunshine in general. Of course, since I live in England it’s actually hit and miss whether you get the sunshine but it’s completely appreciated and adored when we do. (Last week we had a 27 degree bright & sunny afternoon, followed by torrential rain and flash floods a few days later. Variety is the spice of life)

WordPress has reminded me (prompted me, elbowed me in the ribs…nudge nudge) that I have only posted about 7 times in the last year. That is shocking. Sorry, if you happen to actually read my ramblings and have anything like a vague passing interest. I wish I could say it’s because life is so exciting I have no time, but that would be a lie. Life can be exciting, but I certainly could make more time for this little blog of mine. Otherwise what’s the point? And, as said many times before, I actually do like writing.

So, here’s a little update for you. Spring…into Summer… told in photos, since I am addicted to Instagram. [Current favourites include #embossing videos, #cakedecorating videos, sarcastic memes and pictures of dogs)


You already know from my last post that I did the mad Devon-dash (that’s what I’m calling it from now on, I foresee it happening a lot on my future now that a wee person has arrived, more on that later…)

But March also had some lovely family time with the non-pregnant siblings. We went to Tuscany on the 26th, the first family holiday we’ve had in five years and the first time Abigail has been abroad in 11 years. Poor girl. One day she can be a jetsetter like me 🙂 I had to drive in Tuscany, for some ridiculous reason, but managed not to kill my entire family plus Abigail’s friend Melissa who came with us. So that was good.

We stayed in a villa I found on Air BnB and the only drawback was that the pool wasn’t open yet. It was gorgeous and in the most beautiful, peaceful surroundings. So relaxing to just hang out at home and rest, colour, crochet, sleep, read…do jigsaws… we loved it.

We had day trips to Florence and Pisa, getting the train from our nearest town into the city centres – way better than the prospect of driving! Abigail and I were the only ones brave enough to climb the Leaning Tower of Pisa, an experience I certainly will never repeat. You can’t tell from the photo but I’m clinging to her for dear life and trying not to throw up.

Also, we walked MILES. With frequent stops for ice-cream, but MILES.



I did some dreaming in April, and found all these pretty quotes and images online which made up a sweet phone background for a while. It’s nice to not always have your feet on the ground, right?

Not much happened in April…

I started watching the TV show “Full House”12987980_10157034838650122_846505130_n.jpg

Super exciting, I know. I actually only started because I watched the first episode of “Fuller House” on Netflix and despite all the hype it made no sense to me because I hadn’t seen the original. Now I’m up to season 6… #bingewatching    It’s stupidly easy to watch and have on in the background. Not a lot of concentration is generally required, which is good.


Also in April, this absolutely fabulous bruise occurred:


There is a story behind this bruise. I’m not normally in the habit of displaying my injuries but this one was fairly epic…those pictures show the progression over a few days but it was still bruised 3 weeks later.

So, what happened was: I was hanging out with my friends Debbie and Aaron. You remember them, they have Emily and Eli. Well, Aaron has a bakery business now and bakes AMAZING things from their humble little kitchen. Check him out at http://www.beardybaker.net ! (shameless plug)

Anyway. On this day we were all in the kitchen and the children were playing… brownies were cooling on the top of the movable island that they have in the kitchen. Somehow one of the children managed to knock the island and the brownies – still hot from the oven – toppled over, almost landing on top of Eli’s head! I say ALMOST eecause thanks to us three quick reacting adults we managed to get the children out of the way and the brownie became affectionately known as ‘floor brownie’ (still good)

But unfortunately for this quick reacting adult, I had to slide off a wooden stool in order to get to the baby and in doing so did some kind of injury to my leg! Totally worth it to save small child/ren from molten brownie but OUCH

Moving on…. also in April I learned to make macarons, and tried my hand at painting furniture. I had a pine frame bed, and a pine desk – both of which had been given to me for free, and which I was growing to hate because they were different shades of pine! Cue paintbrush 🙂 I have since also painted four black dining chairs to match them to our dining table and they look great too. Having a white bed and desk has transformed my room and I had a lot of fun! #makedoandmend

Impressive, no? I couldn’t find a recipe to get the macaron filling the same as it is in the shops, but I was still so stupidly pleased with myself that I almost cried when I got them out of the oven!



Just a fun photo of me 🙂 Actually I had a very random day in London this month. I was virtually order to attend a meeting, in Wembley, but when it came to it I turned up and they had cancelled the entire thing and not told me! Helpful. Since I’d blocked out my day to attend, and my work phone died, I ended up just mooching around London for a little while until my train home… hence the smoothie and sunnies.

Sometimes, these odd things happen in the social work life.

The second most exciting thing that happened in May, is this:

BYE HAIR!13227988_10157173626930122_2002220906_n.jpg

The boldest hair decision I’ve ever made! There was so much hair on the floor. The stylist was really excited, the lady behind me was freaking out… it was very exciting. It has taken a little while to adjust to it, particularly not putting it in a ponytail to go swimming. Every so often I catch sight of myself in a mirror and have to do a double take, but I’m loving people’s reactions (and compliments, won’t lie) It’s something I’ve thought about for years but never been brave enough and I finally decided, hey, it’s hair, it’ll grow back. There are way worse things that could happen.

But now, the most exciting thing that happened in May…….. Baby Ezra has arrived!

Baby! Sunday 22nd June, weighing 9lb 9oz. Isn’t he sweet? Jonathan and Alice and I did the Devon Dash on Friday 27th (Abigail’s birthday) and came back on Sunday… only a short trip to meet him but we had a good weekend, and lots of cuddles.

I officially now have seven babies in my life, with names beginning with E… it’s a good letter!

June….. will have to wait for another day, it’s only halfway through!

Hope you’ve enjoyed this little photo update of joy… see you soon





Day 5: Favourite quote

I feel like today’s topic is meant to refer to some profound utterance; something to inspire or encourage or provoke intense thought.

Instead, I’d like to share with you my favourite quote of today.

Ladies and gentlemen, I give you – a quote from my friend Laura:

“Right now, I just can’t get over the fact that he is actually more dog than man. And she is in love with him”

Can you guess to what she was referring?!

We were watching Beauty and the Beast this evening – because we are most definitely still allowed to do that, despite being in our twenties – and for some reason when are over 7 and you watch Disney, you manage to pay attention to all kinds of things that you hadn’t seen before.

For instance; the fact that when Belle is falling in love with the Beast, she doesn’t know that he will become a human if she loves him genuinely,  and really just loves him even though he is an actual animal.

We came up with several options, when considering what kind of animal he was most similar to…a dog, a lion, a bison…?

Either way, not human. And yet, she loves him.

I definitely love that movie.


…every woman…

”Every woman, whether rich or poor, married or single, has a circle of influence within which, according to her character, she is exerting a certain amount of power for good or harm. Every woman by her virtue or her vice, by her wisdom or her folly, by her dignity or her levity is adding something to our national elevation or degradation.” —John Angell James

I did plan to blog last night, but I was on call for work and ended up being called out at 9.30pm to go looking for two of our girls who’d done a runner earlier in the day. I’m now on first name terms with most of the responders at the Ashford Police Control Centre. I didn’t get home til 1.30am and then had to call social workers and police etc. Wandering around Margate at midnight is not the greatest. My job is fun.

Actually, that’s not intended to be sarcastic. It’s hard to have context on screen. I genuinely do love my job; my mum asked me the other day if this is what I expected it to be – and it pretty much is. The high intensity, fast-paced days and having to think on my feet; I do like it. Better a busy day with lots to do than a really quiet day where all my work is done by lunch.

Having said that, falling into bed at 2am and not being able to sleep til 3am because my mind was all wired meant that I slept through my alarm til 10am, and was consequently 2 hours late for Impact today. Thankfully everyone was very gracious! I’m just hoping that it doesn’t all happen again tonight, because I’m meant to be up at 6am tomorrow!

Not posting yesterday meant no Memory Verse Monday…but in our Impact team meeting Roger read out Romans 15:13 to encourage us all, and so I’m taking God’s hint and that will be my memory verse for the week.

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.”

Last month I did a focused study on joy and then later we discussed the idea of joy and happiness in our Impact study time. It’s something that’s on my mind a lot recently – something I struggle with, really. But then a while I was browsing online and found a poem that I really love. It’s by a guy called Charles Thomas (C.T) Studd, who was a missionary to China in the 1800’s. I think it’s amazing, and I’ll just end this post by saying: this is the way I hope to live my life.

“Two little lines I heard one day,
Traveling along life’s busy way;
Bringing conviction to my heart,
And from my mind would not depart;
Only one life, ’twill soon be past,
Only what’s done for Christ will last.

Only one life, yes only one,
Soon will its fleeting hours be done;
Then, in ‘that day’ my Lord to meet,
And stand before His Judgement seat;
Only one life,’twill soon be past,
Only what’s done for Christ will last.

Only one life, the still small voice,
Gently pleads for a better choice
Bidding me selfish aims to leave,
And to God’s holy will to cleave;
Only one life, ’twill soon be past,
Only what’s done for Christ will last.

Only one life, a few brief years,
Each with its burdens, hopes, and fears;
Each with its clays I must fulfill,
living for self or in His will;
Only one life, ’twill soon be past,
Only what’s done for Christ will last.

When this bright world would tempt me sore,
When Satan would a victory score;
When self would seek to have its way,
Then help me Lord with joy to say;
Only one life, ’twill soon be past,
Only what’s done for Christ will last.

Give me Father, a purpose deep,
In joy or sorrow Thy word to keep;
Faithful and true what e’er the strife,
Pleasing Thee in my daily life;
Only one life, ’twill soon be past,
Only what’s done for Christ will last.

Oh let my love with fervor burn,
And from the world now let me turn;
Living for Thee, and Thee alone,
Bringing Thee pleasure on Thy throne;
Only one life, “twill soon be past,
Only what’s done for Christ will last.

Only one life, yes only one,
Now let me say,”Thy will be done”;
And when at last I’ll hear the call,
I know I’ll say “twas worth it all”;
Only one life,’twill soon be past,
Only what’s done for Christ will last. ”

— extra stanza —

Only one life, ’twill soon be past,
Only what’s done for Christ will last.
And when I am dying, how happy I’ll be,
If the lamp of my life has been burned out for Thee.”


Is your church too cool?

A friend of mine just posted a link to this article on facebook: http://www.relevantmagazine.com/god/church/features/26050-is-your-church-too-cool

I confess I don’t know very much about the author, so I don’t know whether she has a general anti-church mindset, or whatever – but I really feel that this article is an honest reflection of how churches in our modern, technologically minded society can be.

A lot of what the author says is true; she’s quite critical but she ends by revealing the heart of the matter:

Some of us wear our brokenness on the inside, others on the outside. But we’re all broken. We’re all uncool. We’re all in need of a Savior. So let’s have some distracting church services—the kind where Jesus would fit right in.

I’d encourage you (if anyone’s reading this!) to read and really consider what she says in the article, and make up your own mind what you think…it’s definitely worth a few minutes of your time.

– x –

Memory Verse Monday…and a bit about grace

Memory Verse Monday…on a Tuesday, because I forgot yesterday!!!

This week my memory verse is from Numbers; chapter 6: 24-26

The LORD bless you and keep you; the LORD make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the LORD lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace

I really like these verses; they really help me focus on God and remember that He is the everlasting light, which shines upon me (of all people!) and brings peace specifically for me, in whatever situation I am in.

I’m going to really work on sticking to memorising these verses, because I’m quite lax in it most weeks. At church on Sunday, Terry Virgo (who leads the New Frontiers movement, which my church is part of) preached on grace, and essentially how amazing it is! And I realised how often I think I’m letting God down when I don’t read my Bible everyday, or memorise the verse, or pray for half an hour straight, or pray aloud at prayer meetings…or or or. There are a thousand and one things I could do, which would glorify God – but because of grace I don’t need to do them. I can choose to, because I love Him and I want to – but whether I do them or not doesn’t affect my salvation: I am already saved, by grace, through faith.

How incredible is that?! What an awesome God we have.

Memory Verse Monday

I didn’t get to post my memory verse last week as I was away on training, sans internet…but, I’m carrying the verse over into this week anyway since God has really been speaking to me through it.

The verse is:

James 4:7 – Submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.

It’s a simple verse, but that’s made it quite easy to memorise – so in quiet time I’m more focused on meditation than memorisation.

I’m loving it!

Memory Verse Monday

Scripture memorisation is something that has really been on my mind (and heart) lately. The link below is an amazing encouragement about why we should memorise scripture.


The first 16(ish) minutes alone are enough inspiration, John Piper quotes seven (yes, seven) passages of scripture totally from memory. And it’s awesome. He does follow it up with several points, but really the sixteen minutes was enough for me.

So, here’s to Memory Verse Monday. Some of the “handy hints” I’ve read on various other blogs say that it’s good to focus on one verse (or short passage) for a period of time, and trust God to use that verse to speak to you, which is what I have been doing, and will continue to do. I’m going to aim to memorise one verse per week – selecting the verse on Monday and each day in my quiet time I’ll spend time re-learning the scripture.

Why am I posting about this?

Well, another “top tip” of memorisation is “Discipline, Desire and Dedication”. While I have the desire, I struggle with the discipline and dedication: finding time to sit down and be with God has always been difficult for me, and I always seem to be able to find other things to do – things that seem really important at that very moment but can easily wait (for example, dusting the television or sorting through all the old receipts in my purse – yes, I am that kind of procrastinator!)

Introducing Memory Verse Monday is a way for me to be accountable, ensuring that I dedicate time to this spiritual goal, as well as maybe encouraging others to do the same and memorise scripture. Once I set my mind to something, usually it gets done…so here goes.

This weeks verse is from Jeremiah chapter 29 – verses 11 to 14a.

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.  Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you. You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you, declares the LORD”

This is a short passage, but it’s always been one of my favourites. It’s bookmarked and highlighted in every Bible I’ve ever owned, and if you asked me to recite it, I’d have managed the first verse (11) but I’d never really considered the bits that follow. They’re truly amazing verses that speak of God’s purpose and love – and that is something I’ve let myself forget about recently, resulting in a bit of a low in my relationship with my Heavenly Father and feeling pretty down about just about everything (think, “what’s the point of…” and that’s where I’ve been lately).

Memorising these verses over the next week will help me to focus and remember that God is the most loving, perfect Father and he alone knows his purposes for my life – if I seek him, I’ll find him. (What joy!)

Practical tips to scripture memorisation…?

There is no set way to memorise scripture, or memorise anything! Whether it’s 2500 words of complex French for an A-level exam, or a recipe, or even how to calculate percentages – the best way I learn is to repeat, repeat, repeat! (yes, those are real examples, percentages are hard!)

The way I memorise scripture is by writing it out (always on scrap paper, I use an awful lot of paper for this!) several times, then covering it up and trying to write it out again word for word. It doesn’t matter if you get a word wrong the first time, or the first three or four times! Just make sure that you write it out again with the correct word and keep going; cover and repeat it, cover and repeat it.

...cover up the page and write out what you remember

The one most important thing to remember is that scripture memorisation is all about God; the Bible is his word to us memorising passages is a great way of getting deeper into relationship with him.

This week's memorisation
1 Timothy 4:12
Romans 8:6

Happy memorising!